Power within the ability to choose.

Put aside all your preconceived notions about the phrase "making a decision". Whether you like to choose or not, you need to remember one thing: It's a real GIFT to have a choice. Let me explain.

The idea of choosing presupposes that you have several options, but above all it is the first example of our freedom.

But isn't this a controlled freedom?

I grew up with the doctrine: " The freedom of some stops where the freedom of others begins " which I have always found to be true. It also implies the acceptance that freedom has its limits. That being free does not necessarily mean doing whatever you want, wherever you want, with whomever you want. Freedom is defined as the possibility, the power to act without constraint. Or the possibility to act according to one's own choices, without having to refer to any authorityIn reality, choice and freedom are two concepts that are related, since they coexist. If you don't have a choice, you are not really free anymore.

It is true that we will never have the option of "unlimited choices" in life. In this sense, we will always have a controlled freedom. Whether it is by our parents, our family, our society, our culture... Choices will always be limited, for obvious reasons, which is recalled in the doctrine quoted above.

But there is clearly a difference between a "controlled" freedom for the sake of everyone and a "controlled" freedom for the sake of some.

I have too many choices... What should I do?

Having too many choices means two different things. On the one hand, it means that our priorities are not clear, and therefore we "want it all". It is in these moments that we do not want to choose, and that it becomes a chore. On the other hand, that our fear of "choosing wrong" controls our lives. Instead of facilitating the decision, it complicates it, because the longer we wait, the more options will appear. Making a decision then becomes painful.

So what to do? First of all, we must clarify your priorities. Whether it is in the professional field, family, health, leisure etc.. We all have things we value more than others, and choices is there to help us. The inability to make a decision highlights the lack of order and prioritization in our lives.

It is important to ask: What is important to you in each of these areas? What is a "non-negotiable"? What is a "bonus"? Why are some things important and others not? ...

Then, it is necessary to be aware of your fears. They are often related to the anxiety of lack. "If I make a bad decision, I'm bound to miss something." And I'll be honest here, we "miss" things every day, every second! And that is a fact. We can't change that information. As I write this article, other people are eating, working, laughing, dancing, and the list goes on. But I chose, that writing this article has more value right now, than any other thing I could have done. I'm not afraid of missing out, because I know I'm going to "miss out" anyway. This fear has actually become knowledge. And as a result, it no longer has the same impact on me. And this is where the power of choice comes in. I can deliberately choose what I want to do and what I choose to miss.

Take back your power !

For a long time I was that person, anxious about making a decision. But the truth is that this anxiety was not really for me. I wasn't afraid of making a bad decision for myself, but for others. I was afraid of disappointing, of giving up, of upsetting, of stressing out, of surprising my family, my friends, my teachers, society... I tended to choose priorities that were not my own. By understanding this, I was able to take back my power. Now, I CHOOSE, and with great pleasure ! Understand that every decision you make is an affirmation of your freedom, of who you are and how you present yourself to the world.Don't forget, you are always supposed to have a choice, if this is not the case, it is because you are not free.

In case you didn't know: we can choose to be happy or not, to be positive or not, to be optimistic or not, to have hope or not, to have courage or not... And this, whatever our situation.